The Things that I Remember the Most about My Family- Road Trips

When it comes to family memories, our vacations are the only things that I remember the most. Now that I am in my late twenties, I don’t remember the number of toys I had broken during childhood or the number of clothes my parents had got for me. Even though I was a tough child, mom and dad never gave up on brining me up well. The best thing that they did for me was that they took me to places where I collected experiences and memories.

When I was in my early teens, we went to Pondicherry and I still remember the surprised face of mine. I had my jaw dropped to the ground and I kept looking at the clear blue waters for a good number of minutes. I made the sand castles, played in the water, and we got countless pictures clicked. After more than a decade, those memories are still afresh on the walls of my room.

Since we live in Delhi, I learned about the Punjabi culture for a greater part of my life. However, I got to know about the South Indian culture when we went to Chennai and Bangalore. The cuisines that we tried there were positively different from the Punjabi food that I had eaten all my life. I could fathom that this is a great learning experience, but I cannot assume a life for myself here. This knowledge was really useful when I had got a brilliant job offer from an MNC in Chennai, but I already had my share of knowledge to decline that proposal. Even though the salary was great, I realized that being a foodie and a Punjabi, the South Indian food was not for me to eat. In the coming years, I would however, accept the job offer from Pune because of the multi-cultural environment.

Travel helps make an opinion

Had I not traveled to the various parts of the country during my childhood, I would not have been able to have an unbiased opinion about the world. It is because of my road trips with family and friends that I know how the people are around the world. I have lived in different parts of India, and I can live with people from almost any culture. I have spent a good deal of time away from parents, which has made me a flexible person who can sleep anywhere in the world.

I have had the luxuries of Self-Drive Cars when I had money, and traveled in a basic passenger train when I was almost broke. Yet, it was only family trips that made me an enthusiastic traveler. Mom and dad are also passionate vacationers who would pack the bags as soon as the summer vacations hit. However, we never went to the clichéd places where everyone seems to rush, which is why even now I don’t go to the hottest tourist spots.

I have learned the art of finding our offbeat places from my mom, who never agreed to wasting time in traffic jams just for the sake of it. Road trips were a learning experience for me, as well as, my parents. They would cherish the time equally as I would do. And we loved creating scrapbooks as we returned from road trips, and they are my most valuable possessions till date. I, being a guy, hear it all the time that I am way more dedicated to my family than I should. Yet, I cannot forget the contribution of my parents in making me what I am.

How to Travel With Lazy Kids without Frustrating Them?

Traveling with kids between 10-18 years is extremely challenging because they are moody, stubborn, and many times lazy. However, when you are parents, you have to travel with kids as a responsibility and leisure both. Nevertheless, no matter what you do, sometimes the kids behave dogged, and you can barely do anything about it, but a few solutions are definitely there. You would never want to miss out on visiting the famous places just because those little monsters were not ready to leave the bed before 12 pm!

Tuck them in bed early

The adult travelers are obviously sane enough that they have to make the most of their time on the vacation. Your spouse and you may like to chill from early in the morning until late in the evening, but the kids may have no such interests. They may want to have a full night’s sleep so that they can have the energy to travel in the morning. They would find the tourist destinations interesting only when they have enough stamina in their body. So let them sleep before 10 pm while you may talk over wine with your spouse as long as you want.

Wake them up cleverly

You need to be tactful with kids to wake them up when required. You may play a sweet song on your portable speakers, an audio book that you want them to read, or let your pet do the job. Dogs are best at waking up humans and the kids cannot resist them either. You should also go to the kids and awaken them gently rather than shouting at them.

Give time to rumble

Almost everyone likes to stay in the bed after opening their eyes, no wonder your children would also love to do that. If you want them to wake up at 8 am, do it at 7:30 am so that they can take their time to simmer in bed. Let them smile at the dreams they had or ask you questions about the day’s plans as you bathe or arrange the clothes. Let them do anything they want while they are in bed.

To get them going

Now that you have finally managed to wake up, you need to boost them for the rest of the day. Keep them energized with fresh juices and health drinks. Explain to them what you are going to do throughout the vacation to create interest in them. They might get more excited at the mention of a few places while the other spots may sound boring to them. Ask them if they want to do something specific during the vacation, and fulfil those desires, if possible. Assign them tasks like they may look for best Self-Drive Cars in Hyderabad or the best restaurants in Delhi, which will also generate curiosity in them.

You may be interested in visiting the museums, but the children have little attention span. They are more interested in adventure parks and play areas. Do not shun their ideas; they are young bright kids after all.

Hunger pangs

Hungry kids can ruin your entire day, or a few hours at least, if you do not have anything to feed them. If you are at a place where the food is expensive or the food stalls are too far, you need to carry a lot of snacks with you. The children can also carry some snacks in their bags, which also gives them a sense of responsibility. They will be active in their mind about not losing their belongings and it also prepares them to share the burden with their parents.

What Makes Me The Favorite Co-Traveler of My Friends?

The only reason that my friends love to tag me along on their vacations is that they know I will never refuse. I never take unnecessary leaves just because I know that I will have to travel any day of the month. And whenever my friends and family have to go to a new place, they would ask me and know that I won’t refuse. And how has it happened that I became an avid traveler?

It happened by chance that I went for my first vacation with my group of friends four years ago, apart from which I had traveled only with the family. I don’t say that the family vacations are boring, but you have to choose your destination carefully. I cannot go for an adventure trip with my parents because I know that they will not be able to trek on the mountains or go for bungee jumping. Such trips are good to go only with friends or even alone. However, when I have to go to the religious places or any other relaxed places, I love to go with my parents and other relatives. Both companies have their own fun, and enjoy being with them. The only thing that I should derive with a travel plan is to see new places. The plan should add some value to my bucket list, or I would prefer to slog in office.

Spotting tickets

After traveling to so many places in the last four years, I realize that my room is full of things that remind me of my vacations. I often spot plane tickets, hotel bookings print outs, and museum tickets in the room and the house. And I never call them a mess; these things are souvenirs for me that give me instant gratification. I can recall the activities that I did on my previous road trips and the moments that I shared with my loved ones.

My luggage

Mom has scolded me zillions of times to remove the backpack from my bedside so that the maid could clean the floor properly from there, but I don’t listen. I have told her millions of times that I love to see my luggage there and it is now a part of my room décor. I don’t intend to remove it or put it in the cupboard because I might have to travel any day. That is why; my friends know that whenever they ask me for a spontaneous trip, I would be ready in an hour, unlike others who take a long time to pack their bags and it frustrates many other guys in the group. Last time we took a car on rent in Delhi, the three members made us wait for three hours! Too much it was!

The recommendations

There are times when I have already seen a place and I don’t wish to go there again unless it is urgent. The ones who are going there would ask me for recommendations of hotels, restaurants, and popular tourist places. I don’t mind telling them either, along with my personal insights. Moreover, even if I have not seen a place, I know how to research on the internet. I would take just 30 minutes or an hour to recognize the sites that one should visit and the places that they should skip.

It has been a lovely experience being an avid traveler, and I love it when people ask me about different places in the world. However, I know that I am just a tiny creature of the world, and I still need to explore many more hidden gems in different countries. And this journey is never going to stop until my last breath.

How I Learned Different Things Being a Traveler?

When I ventured out for my first solo trip, I never knew that I would turn out to become a spiritual soul. Although I could not attend the Vipasana or meditation classes in McLeodganj, I have it in my mind to do so sometime because I need at least two weeks of vacation for that. Nevertheless, after traveling to different cities and countries, I now know that I need to collect memories, not souvenirs. Oh yes, I don’t mind buying a few things of course. Let me share how I evolved to become a better human being just by spending some money on my road trips.

Being inquisitive

I used to be curious all the time when I was a school student, but I never knew that this curiousness will give me a restless life. Everything that I see or view online or offline intrigues me to the extent that I end up extending my bucket list every year. My curiosity has taken me to Ladakh, Spiti Valley, Kerala, North-East India, and Gujrat. It is just a short list of the places that I have managed to visit, and each one of them mesmerizes me every time I go there. Being curious is what I know has made humans what they are. Had we been ambitionless fellows, we would still be living in Stone Age. Thank God we have evolutions, inventions, and discoveries by our side.

Being humble

What else would you call the desire to learn? To learn everything that I can in this tiny life that I have got. To learn about the different cultures of the world? To learn and listen to the different languages that people speak. I had heard about a village where they do not have a language to communicate; they connect with each other just by using whistles and gestures. Amazing, isn’t it? I

Being curious is one thing, but it is impractical if you are not humble. I gained humility as I met unpretentious people around the country. Fortunately, I am born and brought up in India, where humility is a part of Indian upbringing. Even when we can afford expensive things, my parents have taught me to be open-minded to gain grounded experiences in life. When we went Udaipur, we could hire Self drive cars in Jaipur, but my father was adamant to travel by train because he wanted to experience the rawness of it. Crazy fellow he is, but we certainly enjoyed a lot.

Being empathetic

I also learnt that being empathetic does not only mean to be able to understand the pain of others; it also means to leave people alone when they need it. Thanks to the modern self-help books, blogs, and what not that we have started realizing the value of solitary time. I give space and demand the same in every relationship, and all of them are peaceful bonds that I share with my closed ones.

I have seen marriages going sour just because people do not understand each other; all they lack is empathy. The Indian countrymen have taught me to smile and let go things when the wind in not flowing in your direction. Ignorance is bliss, and being with terrible room partners have gave me a good grounding in this direction. I have fathomed that there is no use arguing over spilled milk if your roommate is not ready to admit their mistake. It is better to let go and explain using some other tactic. And it is travel only that has taught me to recognize people’s need to be as they are, rather than asking them to change.

How I Decide the Time of My Vacations

I have made a commitment to myself that I need to travel at least thrice a year, or maybe four times if I can manage. However, there have been times when I cannot decide the exact time of the year when I need to go on a vacation. Financial and social commitments subside my travel plans, and I have no choice but to cancel or postpone my plans. Even if I go to a nearest city for a weekend getaway, or just sit at the edge of a hilltop fort, I love the quiet time I spend with myself. However, whenever I start feeling the signs of mental burnout, I realize that it is high time that I should pack my bags to leave for a far-off destination.

The negativity creeps in

Whenever everything starts giving a negative impression, or the world starts feeling ugly, I know that I need to take a break. There have been times in office when the job that I love starts feeling boring, the friends that I have fun feel too poky, and the clothes that I wear don’t suit me anymore. I know at that time that the problem is with me, not the world.

The physical symptoms

The best part about being human is that I can think; I can analyze things, even though I may overdo it sometimes. My body does not make sense to me whenever the mental discomfort reaches the head, eyes, or legs. I realize that the body has started getting the signals from the mind that I should relax. I might sleep for the entire weekend without eating much, but the mind will still be occupied by the household chores.

The struggle to sleep is real

I have a serious problem of sleeplessness whenever I am struggling with an issue. I have spent many restless days and sleepless nights just because I could not stop thinking about the office politics, the unfulfilled ambitions, and even the grocery that I have to buy from the store. I know that I am being too foolish to behave like this, but just a weekend getaway can solve this problem. I like to sit on the edge of a fort and just be quiet for a while; it may not solve my problems, yet it gives my mind the much-needed relaxation.

Decision making is hampered 

It is not that I always make mistakes at taking decisions, but I do err a lot when I am restless in my mind. Simple things seem complicated to me. For instance, I forget how much sugar I had put in the pan while making tea, the number of pages I had counted while making files, the left turn I had to take while driving. I would brainlessly think about various things that do or do not matter. When my mind starts wandering, I know that I need to wander too. It is healthy to be on your own during the vacations and travel without an itinerary.

I have not been going to the gym lately, and I do not work out at home either. A simple walk to the grocery store seems difficult because my body feels heavy along with the mind. There have been multiple phases like this in my life of three decades, and I know that they are normal. I just need to book tickets to a new city or village, and free myself for a few days. I am no saint, but I love the solitary feeling for a few days. It is time to look for Self-Drive Cars in Mumbai and leave for the hills. Yes, I will be going soon!

Why I Don’t Quit Traveling Despite Facing Challenges?

Someone asked me in my office that I always tell them the difficulties I faced while traveling, so why don’t I quit traveling? Yes, he had a point, but I also had an answer. I asked him whether he will listen to my stories if I would tell him all the pleasant things. Wouldn’t it get too boring to narrate the stories of places of saw and the cuisines I ate? Moreover, challenges are a part of a journey, which I learned with time and I love those problems.

Leaving home for a long trip is pain; a real pain for sure. No matter I want to leave my comfort zone when I get bored of my regular life. However, when it is time to leave home for a long time, I feel the discomfort in my heart and mind. Moreover, I hate leaving the family behind for more than a week. I know that I would miss my family, friends, pets, and even the stray dogs in my street. Still, I cannot convey my anxieties to my family because they would never let me leave otherwise.

In contrast, the other challenge that I face is returning home after a long time. Just like I find my comfort zone in a regular job and routine, I find the same in wandering around doing random things. It is really tough to leave that solace that I get when I am on the road. In the backdrop, I know that the money in my bank account is vanishing and I need to go home soon, but I never want to do that. I want to be traveling all the time, which makes it even harder to go home again.

In addition, it also distresses me to see that I got out of the city to gain new experiences, but everyone else back home is busy in their mundane lives. Mom still complains about the faulty internet and TV connection. Dad keeps complaining about the politics in his office. And my friends never stop gossiping about people who make more money than them. I don’t want to call them losers, but in a way, they are. They are really harsh words for the people I love, but it is true that when you gain more than your peers, you cannot stop pitying them, if not hate them. I hate myself for saying that, but I have grown a lot more than my peers. I would never say that I don’t like them, but I cannot be like them again. I like to stay attached to my roots, yet, I like to fly high.

I have traveled to many cities in India in the last few years, and I knew that many of these places were not very safe. When I was in Varanasi, I had to be double careful about my belongings and well-being. I could never take my safety for granted because those staring eyes and incidents of crimes made me anxious. When I decided to do the bungee jumping, I knew that I could not guarantee my life. Still, I wanted to kick myself to come out of the box and I did so.

I hired Self-Drive Cars in Bangalore when I had to travel to the remote corners of Karnataka. And I took a flight when I had to travel from Bangalore to Kolkata, but nothing deterred me from being a passionate traveler. I have faced and I still deal with a lot of challenges, but nothing stops me from being who I am.

How I Deal with Difficult People While Traveling Solo

Even though I am an urban Indian female, the challenges of traveling solo are no less for me. I have been lucky to live in Delhi for most part of my life, but I have seen the small town life as well. The narrow minded perspective of the North Indian society makes it challenging for women to travel alone, no matter the distance. With a significant number of experience at hand, I have learned that there I no way I can teach the right way to behave to some people, regardless the gender. There are men, as well as, women who do not know that they need to conduct themselves carefully in public places. However, I know how I should give them a piece of my mind to warn them immediately.

Dealing with men  

Luckily, there are men in my home who are very polite and understanding. I have been to several road trips with them, and we had a blast every time. Yet, when I had to travel alone for the first time, my choice was Rishikesh. Even though I had thought that I would not face any issues, I found that men would not stop staring at me. Yes, I accept the curiosity of men about foreigner and native women who are brave enough to travel alone, or wear modern clothes. Still, the stares from ogling men is not acceptable.

There was a man in the train to Rishikesh who was fiddling with his phone as I enjoyed my journey to my destination. He was smiling while looking at his phone, and I thought that he must be enjoying a funny chat with someone or looking at photos. He was keeping his bags underneath his seat when I heard the sound of flash from somewhere. As I looked up, he was clearly confused about something. It took me a minute to register that he had clicked a picture of mine without my consent.

I went up to him and asked him to hand over his phone. He clearly denied and said that he was clicking pictures of the landscape outside, but did not want to give his phone. All that argument made sure that he had clicked my picture, or probably someone else’s photo, but I had to take an action anyway. People had turned to us within a minute or argument and a guy asked him to do as I had said, or he would report him to police. Thanks to the supportive crowd in the coach that I could check his phone at ease.

He had snapped my photos, as well as of many other females inside the train. When I told this to everyone, they wanted to beat that man, but a few sensible stopped the mob and they warned him t behave in public. I hope that he had got his lesson about public conduct.

Dealing with women

No just men, but women can be really rude at times. I had hired a Car Rental Delhi last month so that I could go to the movies with my friends in South Delhi. Even though this region of the national capital is supposed to be more sophisticated, we had an entirely different experience altogether. My friends had traveled all the way from Jaipur just to celebrate an evening, but there was a women who pushed Rohit, my college friend. She alleged that he was misbehaving her and had pushed her. We were shocked, but we dealt with her sternly, and she had a good dose of learning from all of us along with the public around.

Traveling alone is a great deal of challenge sometimes, but that does not stop me from going solo. I accept the everyday contests and take them as opportunities to grow.